“If Monday had a face, I would punch it.”
That’s the expression of a little boy coming to school after a weekend. I was sweetly puzzled and rather taken aback by the hard and honest fact of youngsters about work. They all look for a short or long vacation. As I write this message to you, we are entering into a long vacation. Don Bosco said that holiday is nothing but a change of occupation or ambience or atmosphere. For us, the learning never stops, it continues in a new atmosphere called ‘vacation’. In continuation of this thought, I would like to bring to your attention what Japan has planned this year for their school kids.
Quoting an article from Telegraph for your perusal:
More than 500,000 Japanese children between the ages of 12 and 18 are believed to be addicted to the internet, the ministry of education here says. “We want to get them out of the virtual world and to encourage them to have real communication with other children and adults.“The ministry is proposing to hold “Internet fasting” camps at outdoor learning centres and other public facilities where children will have no access to the Internet. The youngsters will be encouraged to take part in outdoor activities, team sports and games, with psychiatrists and clinical psychotherapists on hand to provide counseling.
When I read this article, I felt as though I was reading some science fiction. But it’s happening right now in this world where children are caught in the web of technological advancement and glued to the screens of digital gadgets. As parents and educators, it’s our prerogative to put our children through the Digital Detox process. (We are not very far from Japan)
How can we go about doing this?
‘Limiting Screen Time’
That’s the solution. Screen time is the time you spend watching TV or DVDs, using computers, playing video or hand-held computer games, using tablets or smart phones.
Screen time can be :
- interactive – playing video games, communicating via Skype, or using online tools to draw pictures
- non interactive – sitting still and watching movies, TV programmes or YouTube videos
- educational – doing math homework online
- recreational – playing games or watching videos for fun (Unfortunately non interactive and recreational takes the majority)
Looking at a screen intensely causes sore, irritated and dry eyes, headaches, fatigue, makes your child’s neck and spine uncomfortable. Being inactive for long periods using a screen leads to a less active lifestyle, which leads to obesity. Too much screen time curtails children’s language development, social skills, speaking skills, eye contact and attention in school. Children can copy or be influenced by negative behavior (PUBG, MOMO, BLUE WHALE), stereotypical representations of gender, violent imagery or coarse language they see in advertising and other media.
Child development experts recommend limiting children’s daily screen time for your child’s wellbeing, learning and development.
- As Parents, children should have consistent limits on the time they spend on electronic media and the types of media they use.
- Screen time limits ensure healthy childhood – with and without screens.
- Limits mean keeping a check on the time your child spends on screens making sure it doesn’t disturb their sleep and activities good for their development.
I, hereby insist that children involve themselves in developmental activities like physical play, reading, creative play like drawing and social time with family and friends. Whatever is beautiful, Whatever is meaningful, Whatever brings you happiness. May it be yours this holiday season and throughout the coming year.
Wish you a Happy and Grace filled New Year.
New Year is about change. And it’s definitely not about changing others. It’s an opportunity for each one of us to change ourselves little better every year.
Most often, we have words in surplus but meaningless. But imagine, if we start losing one day of our life for each meaningless word we utter, how short our lives will be.
In the coming year,
SPEAK in such a way that others love to listen to you.
And more importantly,
LISTEN in such a way that others love to speak to you.
We all think that we live only once but the truth is that we all die only once but live every moment of our lives. Live every moment to make your life meaningful. Do and say things that make you and your life meaningful to you and others. That’s how we find the purpose of our lives.
If we look for perfections in our lives,
a perfect husband
an ideal wife
We will never be happy in our life. Being happy doesn’t mean everything is perfect in our lives but it means that you have decided to look beyond the imperfections.
Accept what is
Let go off what was
And have faith in what will be.
No matter how hard and bad the past was, you can always begin again.
Live in the moment
Create meaningful connections / Limit social media
Focus on the positive
Practice random kindness
Choose to be happy
Give more compliments
Merry everything and be happy always!
Albert’s father was an extremely important and busy man who worked so many hours that he often had to work whole weekends. One Sunday, Albert woke early and, hearing his Dad opening the front door to go to his office, Albert ran to ask him some questions:
-“Why do you have to go to work today, Daddy? We could play …”
-“I can’t. I have some very important matters to see to.”
-“And why are they so important, Daddy?”
-“Well, because the company will make a lot of money, and it’s possible they’ll promote me.”
-“And why do you want them to promote you?”
-“Well, to have a better job and earn more money.”
-“And why do you need to earn more money?”
-“Well, to be able to have a bigger and better house, and we’ll be more comfortable and we’ll be able to do more things.”
Albert thought for a while, then smiled.
-“Will we be able to do more things together? Great! Then go quickly.
I will wait the remaining years before we have a bigger house.”
On hearing this, Albert’s father closed the front door, without leaving.
Albert was growing up very fast, and his father knew he couldn’t wait for so long. So he took off his jacket, left his computer and his reports, and sat with Albert to play with him.
Albert, who was as surprised as he was delighted, said:
“Yes, I think the promotion and the new house can wait for a few years.”
When I meet parents, most oft-repeated complaint is that they are too busy to spend time with their children. I feel that we are misconceiving the notion of busyness with being productive. If we don’t plan our time to be with our children, then Blue Whales, Momos, Clash of clans and PUBGs (Player Unknown’s Battle Ground) are there out in the social network prowling round like a hungry lion to devour your children. It’s the right time and high time that we are awake from the Maya of busyness and wake up to the reality. Be focused and be productive. Productivity is much more elegant and authentic.
Everytime we say ‘I don’t have time’, we actually mean ‘That’s not my priority’. So have your intentions clear and set goals in business as well as family and go about achieving it.
Happiness breeds productivity.
Tomorrow is too late
Yesterday is over
And NOW is exactly the right moment,
1st June 2018
Is there anyone teaching our kids HOW TO FACE SUCCESS or FAILURE in life?
Our children are to be taught the consequences of SUCCESS and FAILURE.
Our children need to know that success is only momentary and if they really want to be successful, they need to be constantly dissatisfied with their success and move from GOOD to BETTER and then towards BEST.
Our children should realize that they can’t bask in the glory of the past.
If Success is so critical, imagine how much more we need to prepare our children for FAILURE. We need to make our children realize that SUCCESS and FAILURE are not opposites but two outcomes of the same process.
There is WISDOM in both and we need to prepare our children to Fail successfully.
I would like to quote the inspirational words of John C. Maxwell, the great inspirational author.
“FAIL EARLY, FAIL OFTEN, BUT ALWAYS FAIL FORWARD”
The only way to make failure useful is to learn from it.
Rise above any resistance you may meet at the course of your dream. Keep your eyes on your dreams. Life tests the big dreamers – the passionate revolutionaries.
Succeed; then move from Good to Best.
Let’s fail forward and learn wisdom out of it and reach our dreams.
May I take this opportunity to wish all of you a wonderful start in the upcoming academic year irrespective of the outcomes, SUCCESS or FAILURE and grasp the available opportunities.
Wish you a very happy & grace filled New Year. May Joy & Success be yours all through this year.
If you ask most people what is their one major objective in life, they would probably give you a vague answer, such as, “I want to be successful, be happy, make a good living,” and that is it. They are all wishes and none of them are clear Goals.
Goals must be SMART:
S–specific. For example, “I want to lose weight.” This is wishful thinking. It becomes a goal when I pin myself down to “I will lose 10 pounds in 90 days.”
M–must be measurable. If we cannot measure it, we cannot accomplish it. Measurement is a way of monitoring our progress.
A–must be achievable. Achievable means that it should be out of reach enough to be challenging but it should not be out of sight, otherwise it becomes disheartening.
R–realistic. A person who wants to lose 50 pounds in~30 days is being unrealistic.
T–time-bound. There should be a starting date and a finishing date.
All the very best & God bless you….
20th October 2017
I know it’s an odd question to ask you and not your kids but still I wanted to ask you. “Have you ever played a video game?”
We are bit outdated when it comes to video games whereas our children are experts in this arena. We prefer to sit and watch them playing with our eyes wide open rather than trying to play and get stuck at the same level again and again.
I would like to draw my message out of this to all of us.
Life is like a brand new video game. As you play, you need to unlock the future so does our life unfolds before us as we live every moment. Life is full of surprises just like a video game. Sometimes its interesting to play and we are eagerly looking forward to unlock the future levels immediately. Every level has got its difficulty level and its own treasures to gather on the go. As you play, you get protected, you get more lives, you build more. So does in life, nature and nurture are so conducive that we enjoy living our lives to the fullest.
Unfortunately, video game has a reload button while Life is oneway game. It has to be lived with much more care and concern or else we get stuck to life in some phase as we never had a HOW TO LIVE manual handed on to us.
As Parents, you would have realised by now, having played your own game of life, the most difficult phase is your child’s phase of school life. I would say, the Troubled teen phase they go through. It is troubled phase for the only reason that they don’t know whether they are kids anymore or adults already. There is a confusion in their behaviour oscillating between maturity and immaturity. There is an identity crisis and this is their transition period from childhood to adulthood.
Though, there is no LIFE MANUAL to guide them, there is still a good news. There is a wonderful solution to get them across this difficult phase.
THEY HAVE YOU
You have gone before them in this life and you know the difficulties of your time as well as theirs. Who else can better accompany them in their game of life.
With the counsel of the Elders- Grandparents, Parents, Teachers and Well Wishers, they will be able to unlock the treasures of the future and thus we will be moulding honest and holistic citizens of this world.
P.S: Dear Parents, I would consider you as the ALL ACCOMPLISHED MEN AND WOMEN for your kids.
Happy Parenting! Happy Childhood!
Principal & Correspondent
Rev. Fr. Stanley Ignatius SDB